Trust a fundamental foundation for any relationship

Trust - (noun and verb) A firm belief in the reliability or the ability of someone or something.

Trust is the fundamental foundation of any relationship whether its between a father and children, mother and children, husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, Business partners, politics, etc... if we are not able to trust a person then we must explore the reason why? Let’s take the example of the relationship between husband and wife.

When we take the case of a relationship between husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, the bond starts from trust. A lot of people do not address the issue of trust though. They get into the relationship and after 6 months or 1 year into the relationship the problems start. I have personally seen a lot of cases where a woman does not trust the man either regarding money or around other women or other issues. The reason behind this is the women trusted the man and got into the relationship but when some situation might have come where-in she started doubting his behavior. That is when the trust she has for the man becomes questionable.

Trust is always linked to fear. Both the man and woman must have a very good foundation of trust in the relationship only then will the relationship move forward smoothly. Relationships are about growing together not living separate lives as you grow older. If either of them has the slightest breech in trust then its like having a crack in a mirror. The crack is there but we can still see the face in the mirror. We also can see the crack but we won’t address the crack, thinking that its only a small crack and that’s not gone do any harm. But in the due course of time the crack will starts putting a strain of the entire mirror and finally it will break it. It is the same scenario with relationships.

If your partner is getting suspicions of you talking to another woman, then it is her issue of trust on you. There might have been a place where you would have given her a benefit of doubt to actually suspect you. Women are highly intuitive species as it comes from protecting their offspring. In the species aspect when the male goes for hunting the females rear off springs and this gave them very high intuitive skills to sense danger. This is the same intuitive skill she is still using on you. In this scenario her fear of losing you to another women plays a very big role. At this situation a man usually fights back saying you don’t trust me that’s why your always suspecting me. But the actual way to deal with this situation is to understand that, it is her fear of losing you that is making her suspect you. Fear is an emotion that can make us paralyzed mentally. Fear plays a big role in our survival but its crippling relationships. Fear can be addressed with compassion between each other.

The solution to this problem is to be emotionally intelligent. At this point the man can show some compassion and make her understand how important she is to him and reassure her that there is no need to have any fear. Compassion is a wonderful emotion that can save any situation. This is one of the ways you can reinstate the trust in the relationship.

In a Chinese tradition any object that is cracked or is broken is stuck together by melting gold. The more the gold lines on the object the more it is stood the test of time and in turn the value increases of the object. The melted gold is the lessons we learn form the problems we face and that adds value to the relationship and quorate the relationships.

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